Whoa! Not ready for all that baby mama drama yet? Well, the solution is simple, and we’re pretty sure you don’t need us to spell it out to you. But just in case, here’s a reminder: don’t become a dad! Not until you’re ready, anyway. It’s the best way to ensure there’ll be no baby mama drama and no worrying about how you’ll support and take care of a child while you’re still trying to have fun, build a career or simply enjoy your youth.
How much do you know about contraception?
A little? Nothing at all? If you think it’s her responsibility alone, you’re wrong. It’s up to both people in the relationship to decide on what precautions to take to prevent unwanted pregnancy. Bottom line, if you’re not ready to be a father, you need to make the effort to explore the safe sex options available to you and your partner – and yes, safe sex can totally be fun sex. Don’t believe us? Just check out this steamy post.
But contraception’s only for women… right?
Yes, most contraceptive methods available today are only for women, although there are some options for men too, which we touch on below. That said, we all know that knowledge is power, so understanding how different contraceptives work means that you can help you partner make the right choice for your lifestyles.
There are lots of options when it comes to contraception for women – and a few for men, too.
Women can choose short-term contraceptives (i.e. the pill, the patch, female condoms) or long-term contraceptives (i.e. the implant contraceptive or the copper IUD, aka the ‘loop’). For men, the condom is a highly reliable choice that is roughly 99% effective in preventing unwanted pregnancies as well as the transmission of HIV and STIs when used correctly.
Then of course, there’s the option of permanent sterilisation for women and vasectomies for men, for people who don’t wish to have kids (or more kids) in the future.
So, which option is the best?
All modern contraceptive methods are highly effective, but those that involve placement by a healthcare provider, such as the implant or IUD, are the most effective, because they leave less room for human error (such as forgetting to take a pill or being late for your injection).
Interestingly, condoms leave the greatest room for error.
The two most common mistakes are not holding the top when rolling the condom on, which can lead to breakages, and failing to remove the condom while the penis is still erect to avoid spills. This is why it’s best to use condoms along with another method of pregnancy prevention. And remember: dual contraception (i.e. simultaneously using contraceptives and condoms) is essential to preventing pregnancy AND the spread of HIV/STIs.
Our best advice for you? Have a baby by choice, not by chance.
That’s the most effective way to avoid baby mama drama while ensuring that you’ll be able to give your kids the best you can when you’re ready.
Why not make an appointment at your nearest Marie Stopes centre for contraceptive advice or HIV and STI testing and counselling? It’s a totally confidential, no-judgement zone where you’ll feel comfortable and be given the right advice.
Make an appointment online or contact us on 0800 11 77 85.
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