Let’s be honest, many of us can’t even conceive of a world without smartphones and the reason for this- social media!
Social media is great and many of us benefit from using it. We get to connect with people we wouldn’t have otherwise, and we learn and get exposed to more of our world than we’ve experienced up until now.
Social media is a tool that is now used to meet new people or engage with people we usually wouldn’t, so your profile is your “pitch”. This is why we love Zamo’s selfies- did you guys see that technique? She was experimenting with angles, trying interesting poses and expressing herself- her personality was shining through in those pictures.
And the dark side? We also use social media, in part, to get attention and validation, and it can be hurtful when we don’t get that attention. We can equate that validation with approval or self-worth. Many of us feel anxious over how many likes we get after we post a picture and the problem with that is we give people far too much power – to validate or invalidate us.
How to be OK with little or no likes
Publish posts that YOU like, that YOU enjoy and most importantly HAVE FUN and the rest will follow.
“But the most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you can find someone to love you well, that’s just fabulous.”- Carrie Bradshaw (Sex and the City).
Before seeking external validation, ask yourself, “What do I hope that person tells me?” Then tell it to yourself. Essentially, you’re looking for someone else to see the best in you and believe in you. Give yourself what you’re seeking from them FIRST then by all means, get it from the world too.
Recognise that no amount of likes or comments or retweets will ever be enough if you don’t know your worth. It’s not the publics’ approval but how you feel about yourself that really determines the quality of your life.