Seen someone hot online and want to go from sexting to actual sex? We have a few pointers.
Four, five, sext! How to turn sexting into sexy times
1. Time it right
Let’s start with sexting 101. You don’t want to be the person who sends a crotch shot right away, no matter how hot you think the person is or how keen you are to shag them. Rein it in. Nudes are super sexy but there’s a time for them – and your first online interaction is not it. In fact, if it helps, imagine you’re chatting in real life, at a bar or club. Would you whip off your top or pants right then and there? Of course not. Would you flirt and employ playful banter? Hell, yes!
2. Test the temperature
As your interaction starts to heat up, you’ll get a feel for when it may be the right time to start sending slightly naughtier content. If the flirting is getting heavier, push the boundaries a bit with a little sexual innuendo. If they respond positively, you’re on the right track. But be sensitive to their reactions: if they seem creeped out or uncomfortable because you’re being too crude, forceful or intimate, dial it back. Here’s an easy test: drop a hint that could be either innocent and dirty. If they go with dirty, you’re on the same page.
3. Picture it
Now that your mind is racing with sexy scenarios and you both seem to be on the same vibe about moving things in more erotic direction, it could be time to send some sneaky pics. Just do it carefully and responsibly. We all know how fast pictures can spread online, and you don’t want your images falling into the wrong hands. There are safe ways to sext, and they’re super hot. Read more: Sexting: Let’s talk about sex, safely
4. If you can dream it…
Things are going (really) well and you’re enjoying getting each other off via text. Now it’s time to make it happen IRL. If you’ve come this far and you have the sense that your sexting partner is as into taking the next step as you are, it’s time to meet.
Suggest getting together in a public space like a bar or restaurant. Rope in some friends to join you if you don’t want to go alone – plus it may be safer this way. Once you begin chatting in the flesh, you’ll soon know whether there was more to your sexting than just virtual chemistry.
But first, protection!
The great thing about sexting is that there’s no risk of nasty STIs. However, once you take your sexting offline and into the sheets, you face some real-life risks. Don’t take them. Rather, pop into your nearest Marie Stopes and get clued up on all the contraceptive options available to you, plus which one would work best for you.
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