Indulging in some no-strings fun can be a great way to wrap up the last days of summer. Sex doesn’t always have to be about making a hectic commitment to each other or planning a life together – sometimes, it’s just about letting loose and having a good time.Before you get down, check out these sex tips to help you hook up the smart way.
The smart girl’s guide to great sex
1. Do it sober
Yes, we know, tipsy sex can be super fun. Fewer inhibitions means you’re up for that striptease or a move you’ve never tried before. But wait. Stop. Think about the last time you made a bad decision about sex. Were you sober? And was it while you were at a concert, a beach party, a festival or a club?
These are often the places where booze and drugs are flowing, and that’s when you’re likely to make the worst decisions about sex – like doing it unprotected, for example. Plus, puking or passing out during sex is not only incredibly unsexy, but it could put you in serious danger or your partner in a very awkward position. Remember, if you pass out while having sex, you can no longer give consent for the act.
2. Don’t be a victim
It’s a sad but inescapable reality that women risk becoming victims of violence when they’re not 100% in control of their actions. Is it fair that we live in a world like this? Of course not. But it’s the way life is, and it’s another very good reason to avoid the effects of alcohol and drugs when you’re out partying and hoping for a fun hook-up.
3. Look out for your girlfriends
We’re not just talking about being a great wing-woman (though that’s what friends are for!). When you’re out in a group, keep an eye on your friends. Make sure none of you takes drinks from strangers, and that you watch every drink being poured.
4. Make transport arrangements before the night begins
Elect a designated driver before the night gets underway, or use a trustworthy cab service. Never use unmarked cabs, and for extra safety, take a photo of your cab driver and the car’s licence plate, and send it to your friends before you get into the car.
5. Carry protection for spontaneous hook-ups
Whether you’re a guy or a girl, you should always carry protection so you can hook up any time without worrying about STIs, HIV or unplanned pregnancy. You never know who you might meet, so just pack a good supply of condoms and make sure your partner is in a sober state to consent.
6. Insert a female condom up to three hours before sex
If you know it’s gonna happen tonight and you’re worried you’ll forget all about protection in the heat of the moment, there’s an easy solution. You can insert a female condom up to three hours before sex, so you can be safe and spontaneous at the same time.
Get safe sex tips & advice at Marie Stopes
Before your next night out on the town, visit a Marie Stopes centre and chat to us about your contraceptive options. We also offer quick, painless STI screening for guys and gals – something all sexually active people should being doing on a regular basis.
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