It’s not always the woman who decides on her own to have an abortion. In many cases, a couple makes the decision together…
Paul and Alicia had been dating for only a few months when they discovered Alicia was pregnant. They’d always used protection, except for that one time, but it turned out that ‘just once’ was all it took. They talked about their options and decided that a termination was what they both wanted. They were still figuring out their relationship and didn’t know if it would be long-term, let alone if it included kids in the future.
Paul used Google to find a cheap, pain-free abortion
Alicia asked Paul to help find a reliable abortion provider – she’d heard it was possible to get a ‘cheap, pain-free abortion’ pretty easily – and so he looked online. That’s how he researched everything else, after all. He found several options, phoned them all, and then chose the one that was the cheapest. Even better, they offered to deliver the pills to Alicia’s home. To Paul, it sounded like the perfect option, because he wanted to make it as easy as possible for Alicia.
‘Dr David’ arrived at Alicia’s flat two days later and administered the pills vaginally. He told them that the cramping and bleeding would start within a few hours. Several hours later, Alicia had developed extreme cramping, though no bleeding. She was nauseous and seemed to have developed a fever, and they weren’t sure if her pain levels were normal. Worried, Paul called ‘Dr David’, who said he’d return to check on Alicia, but the minutes passed and he didn’t show up – and when Paul tried to phone him again, his phone had been switched off. Paul knew he had to rush Alicia to hospital.
The real diagnosis, by a real doctor
It turned out that Alicia had an ectopic pregnancy – that is, a pregnancy in which the pregnancy starts to grow outside of the uterus, usually in the fallopian tubes – and she therefore she wasn’t a suitable candidate for a medical abortion. Had she visited a doctor or registered sexual healthcare clinic in the first place, they’d have examined her and detected this right away. She needed to undergo a surgical procedure to remove the pregnancy.
Paul felt so guilty. He berated himself for having chosen the ‘cheapest’ option, which had turned out to be a dangerous, unsafe provider, and had resulted in these terrible complications. He wished he’d done more research on what to look out for when choosing an abortion provider.
The warning signs Paul ignored – don’t make the same mistake!
- Abortion pills sold outside of a designated clinic, delivered to the home/office, and/or sold over the internet without medical advice.
- Abortion services provided without: a prior medical examination; taking a medical history, and doing a test/scan to check the stage of the pregnancy.
Remember: Anyone can advertise ‘cheap’ and ‘pain-free’ abortions over the internet or anywhere else. But don’t be fooled! Make sure the provider has a fixed address, a landline phone number and a reputation you can trust.
If you don’t want to take a chance, get in touch with Marie Stopes. We provide safe, reliable, legal abortion care in a clean and sterile environment. Plus, all your information stays confidential, and we’ll never judge or question your choices. So, if you want an abortion provider you can trust, choose us.
Make an appointment online to come in and see us. We’ll give you honest, straightforward advice and the highest quality medical care.
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