Hands up, who’s heard (or made) any of these excuses before?
“But I can’t feel anything when we have sex with a condom on.”
“Ooooh but baby, it feels sooo much better without it.”
“I don’t need to wear a condom because you’re already using contraceptives.”
“What if it falls off while we’re having sex and gets lost inside me?”
“I don’t know where to get condoms.”
“I didn’t bring a condom with me and let’s not ruin the moment.”
“They don’t make condoms big enough for me!”
“Condoms aren’t even effective anyway.”
We’re pretty sure lots of you have heard these lines before – or maybe you’ve been the one giving them. Either way, we’re here to tell you that you can’t fool us, and that if someone’s making you believe them, they’re fooling you. Why? We’ll tell you: None of them are true!
Here are the REAL facts:
1. Sex with a condom can feel great.
In most cases, sensation is not vastly compromised with a condom on, and in fact, it’s usually in your head! Yup, that’s right – it’s a state of mind that gives the illusion of a loss of sensation, not reality. Plus, you get loads of condoms designed to add extra sensation, like ribbed or studded condoms and vibrating ones. You even get flavoured ones…Mmm!
2. Birth control alone is not enough.
You must use or wear a condom every time you engage in sexual activity – even if you’re already using a contraceptive method. Why? Because contraceptives can’t protect you against STIs and HIV. Whether you’re in a monogamous relationship or not, dual protection is a MUST. Sorry guys, but even people in monogamous relationships slip up sometimes. Do you really want to take the risk of contracting an infection because you’re afraid of hurting someone’s feelings? Totally not worth it.
3. It’s no biggie if the condom falls off.
Let your partner dive in and try to help you find it (it’ll certainly keep things interesting and less awkward!), or if you have no luck, visit your gynae or GP. It’s unlikely you’ll need to do this though: the vagina is an amazing, intuitive organ. Once it realises there’s something in there that shouldn’t be there, it’ll usually eject it within a day or two. Stay calm – it’s all part of the experience (But don’t forget – if this happens, you should get tested for STIs and make sure you haven’t fallen pregnant as a result).
4. You can get condoms almost anywhere.
You name it – garage shops, 7/11s, supermarkets, pharmacies, health stores and 24-hour shops all sell them. Plus, you can get them for free at any government hospital or clinic, and at any Marie Stopes centre. You can even ask your friends. Thankfully, most young people today realise the importance of condom use, which means that if you’ve run out, one of your friends will probably be able to help you out. Just remember to stock up tomorrow!
5. No penis is too big for a condom.
Girls, guys – no matter what your partner is telling you, it’s not true: you can get condoms to fit any sized penis. Sure, you can stroke his ego by telling him that yes, he’s incredibly well endowed, but you can also get clever. Bring him a pack of condoms and tell him that you especially found these ‘extra large’ ones for him. Get creative! You could even call his bluff by telling him that you think these ones might actually be TOO big… then see how fast he puts it on!
6. Condoms are super effective!
In fact, user error aside, they’re 95% effective at preventing pregnancy and the spread of infection. The biggest reason they fail is due to user error, so make sure you put it on properly, use only water-based lube, and never use a condom more than once. It’s actually so easy to use a condom correctly. Make the process more interesting and offer to insert the condom onto your partner.
So now the truth about condom use is out there!
Now that you know the truth – the real truth – you’ll never let yourself be fooled by clever lines again, because you’ll only be risking your own health. And anyway, if he really cares about you, he’ll respect you enough to use a condom. Any sexual partner who doesn’t isn’t worth your time.
Why not stock up before the weekend? Head to a Marie Stopes clinic in your area or hit the supermarket to check out the wide range of exotic varieties available. There are some new, awesome condoms for women available – why not give them a try? But whatever you choose, just ensure that you use DUAL PROTECTION EVERY TIME! It’s non-negotiable, ladies and gents – trust us.
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