Tinder is now almost synonymous with millennial dating culture; if you have a single friend, chances are she is on Tinder looking for her next partner! It’s no surprise why, either, it’s a super convenient app which eliminates the need to go to a bar and seek out a suiter, and you can chat with multiple people you are interested in at the same time, all whilst being in your pyjamas and slouching on the sofa – not something you could do if you were trying to impress a date in person, that’s for sure!
There is a certain art when it comes to Tinder, though – it’s called your ‘Tinder Game’ and you need to make sure you’ve got a strong one if you want to stand a chance and stand out amongst the thousands of other profiles in your local area. These tips apply to virtually any dating platform, so whether your dating website of choice is Tinder, eHarmony or even Match, these tips will help you find your next date a lot easier. Tinder has some huge success stories and, if you play your cards right, you may very well just meet your next bae!
There are also some key Tinder mistakes which can easily be made and just as easily avoided. Here’s a rundown of some of the most common Tinder profile mistakes.
1) Rude Profiles
Nobody is going to be interested in you if you’re rude or downright disgusting on your profile. Some people do like cockiness, but you shouldn’t overdo it and, for the love of God, avoid sexualising your profile – there are other apps out there for that sort of thing.
I’ve seen some people place huge lists on their profile outlining tiny and detailed traits in people which are an instant ‘Nope’ for them; it’s just rude and obnoxious and a great way to make nobody want to talk to you.
2) You Lie About Yourself
This is a terrible mistake to make, because if you do hit it off with somebody and then, later down the line, they find out you are not who you said you are, you could potentially ruin everything. If you are a law student, don’t call yourself a lawyer. If you run a small eBay shop, don’t call yourself an entrepreneur. If you blog in your spare time (or even full-time!) don’t call yourself a journalist; it’s insulting to those of us who have worked hard to use these titles!
3) You’re Too Shy
Tinder may well be a perfect app for shy people (if there’s an easier way to chat to potential love interests, we haven’t found it!) but that doesn’t mean you should be shy on the app. What have you got to lose by sending that first message? If you have matched with somebody, chances are that they are interested in talking to you. Try and open the conversation with something interesting, though; personally, there’s nothing more off-putting than receiving a message which just says “Hi” when I have a detailed profile and lots of interesting stuff to talk about.
4) Profile Length
There are two kinds of people on Tinder: those whose profiles are the length of a short novel; and those who barely write anything. Both of these are massive turn-offs, nobody wants to read an essay yet, at the same time, nobody wants to see a profile which has had no effort put into it.
People want to get an idea and a feel for you within the first paragraph on your profile. The ideal Tinder profile will be between two and three paragraphs long and stop there, with straight-to-the-point information. People on Tinder don’t need to know everything there is to know about you from your profile, what will there be left to talk about?
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