We read about dating advice for men all the time; from the importance of using contraceptives, to how to project confidence. Ladies, in this article, we’re going to switch it up – here are a selection of dating tips for you, from men.
“One of the things I’ve always found fascinating is how many men wish that women could understand them better, especially when it comes to dating,” comments relationship therapist, Clinton Power.
In a poignant article, Power discusses dating tips that men wish women knew. Here’s an adaption of some of the tips that he chats about in his article.
- Just go with it
Some guys will spend a lot of money on the first date, some won’t. Don’t be offended if you’re first date isn’t at the most lavish, 5-star restaurant. The saying ‘first impressions count’ needs to put into context: first dates should be about getting to know more about each other (that’s the optimal first impression).
- Men love confidence too
Women find confidence a favourable trait in men – and vice versa. ‘Moving, speaking, and behaving with poise if it’s authentic, is not arrogant, it’s confident. Women who have this self-possession have something very valuable, and it’s inviting to a man’, says Power.
- Casual touch is cool
At the beginning of a relationship, body language can communicate emotions a lot more effectively than words. A gentle touch of the arm reassures a man that you’re interested in listening to him. Furthermore, Power says that holding hands is an ‘energy exchange’ that helps you get to know him better.
- Don’t read too deeply into the first hook-up
Your first time together may not play out the way you envisioned, but don’t let intimate scenes that you see in movies fuel your expectations. The first time may very well be awkward; you’re not familiar with each other’s bodies, fantasies and desires. Don’t be too quick to assume that there’s no chemistry between the two of you. Rather, go on a few more dates before you make a final decision.
No matter what your final decision may be, please make sure that you practice safe sex by using contraception (which is available at any Marie Stope’s clinics in South Africa – find your nearest clinic) – an unintended pregnancy or contraction of an STI will put both of you in a very difficult situation that could have been prevented.
How Marie Stopes can help you
If you have become pregnant and wish to terminate your pregnancy, all Marie Stopes clinics offer a safe abortion service administered by medical professionals.
You can also receive pregnancy care from one of our HCUs based at all three of Dr. David Kathan’s Cape Town clinics: