Whether you and your partner are in a rut or you’d like to ramp your relationship up a notch, these tips gleaned from the experts can help you turn a lukewarm partnership into a happier, healthier, hotter one.
10 Expert relationship tips that are easier than you think
1. What to be #couplegoals? Set relationship goals
Chat with your partner about how you imagine your relationship to be, and then figure out how to get there. Want him to spend less time playing Playstation? Be a bit neater? Do you need to dial back on your series binges? Set goals and work together to meet them to build the kind of relationship you desire.
2. Communicate kindly – and with your whole body
Communication is critical, and it’s about more than just the words you use. Be aware of your body language and when you talk, particularly during an argument, be careful not to interrupt each other. Use positive body language and “I” statements rather than “you” statements, which can escalate arguments. But, whether or not you’re arguing, always speak as kindly as possible to each other.
3. Be lovey-dovey
The more affectionate you are towards your partner – even if you don’t feel like it, or if it doesn’t come naturally – the more in love you’ll actually feel. It’s positive reinforcement. Give it a try for yourself.
4. Open up about your feelings
Love your partner? Tell them! Sometimes we assume our partners know how we feel, but there’s nothing better, or more reassuring, than being told.
5. Build a team of two
When you and your partner know you have each other’s backs, it creates an unshakeable foundation for your relationship. Be each other’s biggest supporters and you’ll create a solid team, helping you to overcome whatever life throws in the path of your relationship.
6. Do more for your partner, rather than less
Ever heard that relationships are 50/50? They’re not. Successful relationships are 100/100. Always act with goodwill towards your partner, and try to do more for them, rather than less.
7. Find a common hobby
It’s healthy for couples to have separate interests and spend time apart. But it’s just as important to have common interests and to spend quality time together enjoying them, be it sport, art, board games or something totally kooky that you both love to do.
8. Keep the home fires burning
In a long-term relationship, the frequency of sex can wax and wane for many reasons. It’s normal to go through dips, but if it goes on too long, it can fade out altogether. If need be, schedule time for sex. The longer you go without connecting intimately, the harder it is to get back on track.
9. Focus on the good
It’s so easy to be critical of your partner’s flaws, but try to think about what attracted you to them in the first place. Want a happier relationship? Start by creating it in your head, by focusing on your partner’s great traits and the positive aspects of your relationship.
10. Be each other’s best friend
Couples who have both a romantic and a friendship connection generally have stronger partnerships – and more fun together. Imagine hanging out with your soul mate and your best friend all rolled into one? That’s pretty spectacular.
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